The Beauty In Vulnerability

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“But why would you hang a print of a sad Marilyn when there`re so many others?” asked my boyfriend.

Yeah but they lack the impact of this shot, for mine.

Beyond the large-scale, extreme close-up of her fabulous, symmetrical features I love this image of Monroe for its sheer truth.  Candid and slightly grainy, this shot was snapped at a press conference held outside Monroe`s Beverly Hills home.  It was October 1954 and she was announcing her divorce from Joe DiMaggio after just nine months of marriage.  For me, the powerful allure of this photo lies in its authenticity and drama – it is a raw and realistic portrait of the star.  It exudes the air of gravitas.  This is no staged photograph :  there`s no Movie Studio contractual obligation hanging over it, no moguls or managers pulling the strings, no idealized cheesecake here.

I love this shot because in it she`s not being our Marilyn.  There`s no vamping the audience with her signature smoldering poses, all sleepy-eyed and open-mouthed, and nothing of the contrived persona of movie star Marilyn.  Instead, it depicts a moment of pure presence because in this shot she is totally available to the pain of her loss – there`s no denial, no pushing down of the emotion.  For the fact that she is so visibly distraught I found it uncomfortable to watch footage of this press conference.  She appears frail and almost overcome as she leans on her lawyer Jerry Giesler (to her right) in the midst of a horde of self-serving reporters.

Social researcher and PhD Brenè Brown explains in her popular 2010 TED talk `The Power of Vulnerability` that vulnerability is the birthplace of joy and creativity, of belonging and love.  I would humbly add it`s where healing begins.  Brown says that vulnerable people have the courage to be imperfect and here, Monroe has the immense courage to be seen very publicly as imperfect.  In this photo she is allowing her true self to be seen.  To be deeply seen, as Brown would say.  This image of her is excruciatingly honest and intimate.

What affects me about this photo is that Monroe is fully embracing her vulnerability in grief and to my eyes at least that makes her way more gorgeous.  In this moment there`s absolutely no numbness to Monroe as she steps fully into her loss and despair, on the contrary she is absolutely alive here and breathtakingly beautiful.  Brown explains that vulnerability is exposure and emotional risk, that it most certainly is not weakness and how could it be when Monroe here is very clearly inside the arena, all muddied and bloodied because she had the guts to dare greatly.

Here, Monroe is willing to let go of who she thought she should be – the film star and goddess – to be who she truly is.  She is at once broken-hearted yet wholehearted and that makes her even more exquisite.

For me, the potency of this image lies in its seriousness and its essence of personal crisis which only adds to the artistic quality of the shot, the emotional power elevating it and lending the image a timelessness.

MONROE/DIMAGGIO DIVORCE

 

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Smartphones : With The Gift Comes The Curse

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Well gee, no surprise last week to hear Australian media reporting that the top reason for GP visits in this country is now Depression and anxiety, replacing coughs, colds and back-pain as the most common reasons for people to consult their doctor.  I`ve long wondered whether excessive smartphone usage would eventually tip people into a funk and lead to malaise and poor mental and spiritual health.  As the old adage goes, with the gift comes the curse and smartphones are probably no exception.

A central tenet of mindfulness and spiritual well-being is being present.  Buddhists, Taoists, yogis, the ancient and indigenous cultures and all the great and wise spiritual teachers universally extol the benefits of staying present to the now moment.  They emphasize that this simple practice of mindfulness – conscious awareness – underpins the robustness of our spiritual and mental health yet when I see people all around me buried in their tiny screens they seem anything but present.

Reflexively checking your smartphone is just more distraction and diversion.  Each time you check your messages, your newsfeed, your Apps you are no longer in stillness, no longer in a space of neutrality and peacefulness, no longer in a state of BEING.  The compulsion to pursue data of any kind keeps you divorced from presence which in turn leads to a feeling of being ungrounded.  Anything that actively separates you from the present moment could be described as an energy leak.  Any activity, noise or mind-state that you unconsciously use as a buffer from existential angst represents a split away from the flow of the now moment and causes life-force energy or prana to seep out from the lower Chakras while mental over-stimulation can close or cloud the beautiful Third Eye Chakra.

Spiritual teacher and author Eckhart Tolle says the greatest addiction of mankind is the human mind and compulsive thinking.  According to Tolle all humans are addicts to their unconscious, excessive, superfluous thinking which then defines their identity.  It could well be argued that smartphones enable this addiction because data overload stimulates excessive thought activity so there is no ability and no space to access deeper moments.

I`ve heard it said that social media is to blame for the widespread angst in society today because it feeds the syndrome of Compare And Despair.  ​Maybe that`s true but ​I can`t help feeling that it is the action of gazing intently into that little five inch screen that is way more damaging.  ​Each time you peer into your smartphone you`re being pulled into a state of sensory contraction, contracting your field and closing you down because you are no longer available to the here and now.  The Phone People (those constantly immersed in their screens especially while walking or when sitting in a restaurant or cafe) appear to be in a compressed state of consciousness and quite separate from the physical world.  They seem to be in a state of lack because clearly this moment is not enough for them.  Ironically they seem detached, incomplete and somehow impoverished because they`re missing all the detail, the richness, the minutiae and all the creative potential of the real, material world in this very moment.

When you are present you`re able to access the frequencies of the Sixth Dimension and the magic of synchronicity and grace.  You gain a sense of the strand of interconnectedness that links us all, and the matrix of connection and benevolent support of the Higher realms.  When you are fully present and available to the here and now you`re able to deeply appreciate the perfection of this moment.  Conversely, excessive smartphone usage is like a trapping mechanism that keeps the Phone People separate from Universal connective flow and the sense of spiritual connection.

It`s a healthy choice to limit your time on your smartphone.  Seriously, do you really need to be that available, that connected?  And does the prevalence of social media and the Apps represent real connection or is it all delusion?  It feels to me like we` ve been sold a great big digital illusion of faux-connection.

Take the smartphone challenge and leave the thing at home today.  Can you do it?  Can you leave home without your phone?  Reclaim your time, assert your boundaries and feel the liberation.

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In Praise Of The Sun-Lovers

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“Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth” 

― Albert Einstein

“Tanning is skin cells in trauma” booms the stern male voice in the television ad about melanoma.  Hang on a minute, I`m confused.  If the skin is performing an action that it is programmed to do naturally ie producing melanin in response to a specific exposure in order to adapt and protect itself then how can that be traumatic?  I can understand how sunburn is harmful but slow, sensible tanning?  Full marks to the Cancer Institute for scaring the life out of people.

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I celebrate the devoted sun-worshippers gracing the golden sands of Sydney`s beaches and embellishing her parks, the dedicated sunbathers supine in their pleasure as they bask in the life-affirming rays.  I delight in seeing the bronzed gods and goddesses spreadeagled and lolling in carefree repose in the sun`s sustaining warmth.  I love them for their defiance, collectively flipping the bird at the medical establishment and unheeding its dire warnings about sun exposure.  I admire the sun-lovers for their independent minds as they apparently thumb their nose at the institution with its scare campaign.  Far from recoiling from the sun in fear these freethinking, sovereign Souls instinctively know it is good for them.

Flouting the cautionary advice of the medical community, the sun-worshippers seem not to be influenced by the group thoughtform that persistently warns “this is what will happen to you if you do this.  This is how your health will suffer if you make this choice”.  The sun-lovers are clearly taking control of their own story and I love them for it!  Noiselessly they rebel against indoctrination by the system which has been so emphatic and thorough in scaring the population off sun exposure that anyone who still chooses to bathe in its rays is considered a foolish outlier.  It just feels to me that the pendulum has swung too far against sun exposure and that eventually this will be known and acknowledged by the powers that be.

I quietly cheer the tanned-up sun-lovers because they are my tribe.  I am one of them.  Call me a crank but I love being out in the sun over the long Sydney summers.  I love the drowsy, unhurried feel of the summer holidays, the sense of ease in the carefree, languid days that have a kind of expansive, roomy feel, as though so much more is possible.  I love the reassuring masculine solar presence radiating his revitalizing warmth and brightness because it just seems to make every simple little thing that much better.

I always had a bit of trouble buying into the peddled line that the sun was causing cancer, a message that has been drummed into us ad nauseam over the past 30 or more years.  Being a child of the 60s I grew up with the belief that sunshine was health-giving and uplifting and I don`t remember ever swaying from that view.  I wasn`t convinced that solar ultraviolet radiation was solely to blame for causing malignant melanoma and basal cell carcinoma, instead I wondered if other factors played a role in damaging DNA.  It just seemed way too easy and expedient to scapegoat the sun lest we take personal responsibility for suboptimal lifestyle choices ; lest we get real about our constant exposure to potential carcinogens in this thoroughly modern life.

Around 25 years ago I saw a skin cancer doctor about a couple of funny white growths on my chest which he promptly diagnosed as basal cell carcinoma.  Oh so smugly and with the kind of fixed smirk you see on those ventriloquist dolls he presumed to critique my life-choices while reassuring me that the BCCs could easily be removed.  I got home and decided I `d have a go at getting rid of them myself, but from the inside rather than his external solution.  I simply ramped-up my fresh fruit and vegetable intake and I ate lots of raw english spinach and carrots – not solely, just an increase on my normal servings  – and sure enough, over the next month or so, those unsightly BCCs dried up and disappeared.  I made no other changes – still drank coffee, still had the occasional ciggie (which I was partial to back then).

The body has a natural tendency towards wellness and if we can maintain the ideal blood pH of 7.35 to 7.45 then cancer is unable to grow in an alkaline environment, but alas, I have heard it said that the vast majority of people are walking around in a state of perpetual dehydration and chronic inflammation.  Genetically modified foods reportedly cause inflammation because they are unrecognizable to the body as nourishment.  Alcohol is an irritant to the human system, and cocaine and MDMA acidify the blood as do sedatives and other medications.  It really is a darn inconvenience that all the fun stuff and the pharmaceutical fixes just might be pounding our DNA with continuous hits that trigger those ​cell mutations.  I guess it`s much easier to accept a diagnosis if we can just pin it all on the sun.

I remember when colour televison sets were the new thing in the mid 70s and there were warnings then about the emission of X-Ray radiation from those older style sets, with viewers advised not to sit too close.  Similarly with microwave ovens at the time, with health concerns about leaking microwave radiation.  Then there were reports in the early 2000s saying that sunscreen was potentially carcinogenic due to the nano-technology of the active substances damaging the DNA in skin cells.  Since the early `90s we have seen the huge upsurge in the number of people suffering food allergies and intolerances and it has been theorised that this is due to widespread Vitamin D deficiency.  Could it be that warning people off the sun has actually weakened us?  That it has increased our susceptibility?

What about our continuous exposure to radio frequency radiation and to Wi-Fi which supposedly disrupts and scrambles the human energy field?  Is it harming our DNA?  The fact that Telstra regularly sends out text messages directing me to a link which provides “tips for reducing exposure to RF radiation” indicates that the telcos well suspect there are risks to human health.  According to the American Cancer Society :  “A number of studies have looked at the possible link between cell phones and cancer. Although some studies have shown a possible link, many others have not. The possible link between cell phones and cancer is hard to study for many reasons, including the relatively short time that cell phones have been in widespread use, changes in the technology over time, and difficulty in estimating each person’s exposure”. (website updated Nov 2018).

The International Agency for Research on Cancer (IARC) is part of the World Health Organization and part of its remit is to identify causes of cancer. IARC has stated that there is limited evidence that RF radiation causes cancer in animals and humans, and classifies RF radiation as “possibly carcinogenic to humans”.  IARC considers the evidence overall to be “limited” because of the conflicting findings and methodologic limitations in some of the studies.  In 2011, the World Health Organization (WHO) declared that cellphones are a “Class 2B carcinogen.

Hmmm….it all gives pause for thought.

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An adequate level of Vitamin D is essential for overall wellness and for healing to occur within the body.  Vitamin D underpins the sturdiness of our physical system and the resilience of our mental health, and its deficiency has a significant negative effect on our quality of life.  vitamin d                                                                                                                                Vitamin D apparently functions like a hormone and each bodily cell has a receptor for it.  It is necessary for healthy cell growth, maintaining a healthy immune system, regulating the nervous system and controlling inflammation.  Adequate Vitamin D helps wounds to heal more quickly and supports recovery post-surgery.  Unsurprisingly, Vitamin D deficiency makes us more susceptible to increased risk of illness and infections, and fatigue and tiredness can be a symptom Vitamin D deficiency.  Depression and low mood is associated with insufficient Vitamin D and some studies have found that supplementing improves mood.  Vitamin D protects against cancer by aggressively attacking tumours.  Vitamin D plays a crucial role in calcium absorption and getting enough of it is important for preserving bone mass as you get older.  D deficiency can lead to Rickets (soft bones) in children.  There is a link between chronic pain and low blood levels of vitamin D, which may be due to the interaction between the vitamin and pain-sensing nerve cells called nociceptors.  Studies have linked insufficient Vitamin D to influenza and schizophrenia.

Ninety per cent of vitamin D is made from sunlight exposure directly on to the skin (not through glass).  Only about 10 per cent of vitamin D comes from food sources such as oily fish, fortified milk and egg yolks.  Vitamin D deficiency is reportedly common but is easy to remedy.

It could be strongly argued that warning people to stay out of the sun is in fact keeping them sicker.  A study done by an Australian University in the early 2000s on melanoma-sufferers showed that moderate sun exposure actually slowed the growth of the melanoma compared to the control group that avoided the sun altogether.

According to the Australian government Department of Health website healthdirect  “A number of diseases have been linked to low vitamin D levels such as increased risk of death from cardiovascular disease, cognitive impairment in older adults, severe asthma in children and cancer. Research suggests that vitamin D could play a role in the prevention and treatment of a number of different conditions, including Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes, hypertension, glucose intolerance and multiple sclerosis.  Low vitamin D levels can lead to osteoporosis and increase your risk of falls and fractures (broken bones) if you are over 50”.

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Bogart & Bacall`s Healing Effect

This shot holds me spellbound, I love it so.  I`m currently having a large print framed for my new home and someone recently asked me what it was about this image that I found so arresting.  Where do I begin?  If Healing is equilibrium, inner harmony and coherence then I am Healing whenever I linger over this photograph.  To me, it has everything.

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Mandatory Credit: Photo by SNAP/Rex/REX USA (792986fu) FILM STILLS OF ‘TO HAVE AND HAVE NOT’

The therapeutic effect of this image lies in its ability to pull me right into the present moment and because of the wash of peace that envelopes me as I gaze at it, as though I`m vicariously experiencing their rapture.  Beyond the palpable heat and urgency radiating off this pair this picture speaks to me of absolute presence.  There`s a timelessness to it because linear time does not exist within the frame – for these two right at this moment there`s no past and no future.  To my eyes and my heart-mind both she and he are in an expansive space of total availability to the now moment and all its vulnerability, creativity and unlimited potential.  This image could well be a pictorial representation of Eckhart Tolle`s `The Power Of Now`.  Looking at this pair I see heart energy clearly leading.  I see a deep knowing.  I see complete and unquestioning trust and a total absence of fear and doubt.  I see absolute surrender.  I see the remembrance of wholeness.  I see pure truth and it is sublime.

The gorgeous bit and the thing most special as I savour this shot is that we are privy to Bogart and Bacall`s fledgling love affair, one that would become a great Hollywood love story.  They famously fell in love on the set of this movie, 1944`s `To Have and Have Not`.  They aren`t feigning attraction for this photo – this is no masquerade for the camera.  The blazing passion of their embrace, their swoon of bliss – we know it is authentic.  Both she and he are home.

I also love the perpendicular line of her thick tresses, as though grounding the pair and somehow anchoring them in the physical plane, drawing them back down to earth from their lofty, loved-up limerence.

In this picture I`m​ seeing the representation of balanced creation.  I see symmetry in this sexy pair – a divine union of the demonstrated energetics of Masculine and Feminine, the contrary yet complementary and interconnected characteristics of yin and yang.  I`m witnessing a unity between the paradoxical.  The divine Feminine aspect within each calls to the sacred Masculine within the other so that there is no separation, instead a merge into unified wholeness.  The slow, deliberate, singular focus of the Masculine blends with the energized, brisk complexity of the Feminine.  His action meets her passivity, a fusing of intent with openness.  His divine Will, his commanding focus and drive toward manifestation mingles and melds with her flowing receptivity, creativity, understanding and ease.  She values and nurtures him and he supports her, giving her structure and stability.  It is an organic completion and deeply healing.

To me, this shot symbolizes the sheer beauty of truth and the curative power of Love.

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Passion`s Passenger

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Underwhelmed.  I`d be willing to​ bet that`s how you`re feeling right now, having just read the title of this piece.  Passion.  Hmmm… I must admit, it was with great reluctance that I used that word in the heading because it​ just feels so hackneyed and threadbare nowadays, as though it has been everybody`s go-to word du jour over the past decade, sadly rendering it ineffective.  My sympathies go out to all the HR recruiters who, with glazed eyes and feigned interest no doubt, have had to listen to the word “passion” being churned out ad nauseam in every single interview by every last wide-eyed candidate.

But for all that, this piece is a nod to passion and a recent experience I had of its fabulous power to elevate an otherwise humdrum enquiry to a place without limits.  It was a typical Friday afternoon with the usual palpable, lighthearted buzz building in the air ahead of knock off time.  I`d decided to drop into the Telstra shop at Telstra House in the CBD and my very ordinary run-of-the-mill question about my Broadband dongle was about to take me somewhere extraordinary.  So I`m directed to Passion 2the young guy at the Tech Bar and what a rare gem he was, providing expansive, verbose explanations and generous answers to even just my basic questions.  He was a total tech fanatic, this guy, and his clear love of that world swept me along on an eye-popping ride because his enthusiasm was my passport – his obsession gave me entreé into the super-cool wonderland of IT.  Suddenly I had vicarious access!  For a brief moment I was privy to his big wide world of knowledge and expertise, a field that has always felt intimidating and foreign to me, and most unwelcoming.  But with his every sentence I was catching a free ride on derivative experience, albeit fleetingly and how exhilarating it was.  I`ve never before felt like I belonged in the tech realm because when it comes to electronic technology I`m afraid I sit just a hair`s breadth outside illiteracy, somehow muddling through and sort of figuring things out as I go.  But that Friday afternoon in the Telstra shop I was taken somewhere and what an educational ride it was!

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Fascinating insights and morsels of information were dished up to me as I was taken on the scenic route, skirting round operating systems, cruising past 4G firewall bubbles, zipping into internet security and anti-virus protection, passing by Norton and Bit Defender and anti-virus performance rankings, turning briefly into gaming, accelerating down payment portals and finally coasting round the sweeping bend of 5G.  How enlightening it all was and for a short time afterwards I romanced myself with thoughts of what might have been, pondering possibilities of computer science studies and whether I should have, and if I still could, venture down the path of the computer geek.  Enthusiasm is a transmissible energy and the fire of his fervour had warmed me right through on a cold August day.  It felt as though my interaction with this guy had given me wings because it was based in total presence and mindfulness and it was creative.

Passion is intentional and deliberate.  It is purpose and focus.  It is love and joy and pleasure.  This young guy did the very special thing of taking the ho-hum everyday and lifting it to a magical, stratospheric place.  Imagine what our world might look like if more zest imbued the ordinary.

To Scott, the Tech Specialist at Telstra, Elizabeth Street, Sydney …thank you for a fun and really cool exchange.

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I Love Terri Irwin`s Truth

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It was so lovely watching Terri Irwin on television last week as she sat for Anh Do while he painted her portrait.  How refreshing it was to see a high profile woman of my age truly owning her years yet sadly it has become a rarity these days.

We share the same birth year, Terri and me, and the thing that resonated as I watched her was the expression of absolute truth, as though I was watching pure, unconditional love in action.  What I loved was her acceptance ;  her clear non-resistance to the march of time and its unmistakable signature imprinted into her symmetrical features.  It was so pleasing and reassuring to see a well known female face on-screen that sparkled with character and distinctive originality.

I was enthralled by her beautiful and expressive face, unworked and totally natural, vibrant, soft, open and receptive.  I would not want to speculate on Terri`s reasons for remaining work-free and I can only speak of what I saw :  a woman comfortable in her own skin, free from denial and insecurity, and gutsily defying societal and industry pressure to inject and fill and nip and tuck, all to erase the ravages of time.  Her lived experience, her every story, her choices, her challenges, her every victory, her every disappointment, her grief and her strength is right there, visible and worn with dignity.

Moreover, as I listened to her candid and generous interview her words, thoughts and feelings just seemed to have substance.  There was a trustworthiness and a compelling credibility to them because they poured forth from an unaltered and unspoilt face.  There was no diminution of the overall message because everything about Terri conveyed integrity.  To my eyes and my perception there were no pieces of Terri missing and I felt as though I was watching a woman who knows her true worth, a woman at deep ease with herself.  She chooses not to shackle her womanly value – her female power – to her physicality by pursuing an implausibly youthful appearance.

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The gift of Grace in growing older and gaining wisdom is a privilege yet in our youth-obsessed culture ageing is treated as a disease – a repugnant curse that needs to be concealed and repudiated as quickly as possible.  Here in pro-plastic Sydney where injectables and age-erasing procedures are seemingly de rigueur even amongst the Kardashian-inspired 20-somethings – the so-called “injectorati” – my unworked face, I have been told is considered a sign of neglect.  My lined 54 year old visage is likely viewed as disparate and passé​ in cosmopolitan Sydney, perhaps too rustic and unsophisticated and a little out-of-place in this aspirational town where style and chutzpah trump substance much of the time.  More troubling to me is the long-term damage these injected foreign substances might be doing to these young women.  Will we see more Parkinsons Disease in the coming decades?

Everything feels so disposable today with in-built obsolescence par for the course and I wonder if the increasingly broader cultural normalisation of cosmetic enhancements and procedures actually marginalises and tacitly deems irrelevant the unworked face?  I have the uneasy feeling that for older women in our culture the implied message is this :  without a worked face you`re simply not a contender.

Not that it is likely to change me.  I am pretty comfortable wearing my lived-in face and I`ll take truth over illusion, uniqueness over homogeneity, facial animacy over inert lifelessness any day.  Besides, I have Terri for company.  And Jerry.

I remember watching an interview on the ABC with Jerry Hall back in 2015 – the then 59 year old was due to begin a Sydney season playing Mrs Robinson in The Graduate – and I was captivated by her natural and lined face.  Here was a self-assured lady who evidently honoured her own stories and experiences and who bore them with pride.  She was so animated and alive, and her authenticity and allowance of the ageing process – her yield to it – was fabulous.  To my eyes she was disarmingly beautiful.  Here was a high-profile A-lister courageously defying the botox trend, unapologetically embracing the passage of time and wearing her years with regalness, love and absolute validation.  And she radiated sexiness too!

I salute Terri and Jerry for their difference.  I admire these women because at their core they know who they are.  They are both aligned with their truth.  I celebrate their self-respect, their self-love, their wholeness and most of all I love their determination and bravery to fly in the face of expectation and the crushing pressure to conform.

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Embracing My Un-Cool

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 OBLIVION  (noun) :  the state of being unaware or unconscious of what is happening around one (ref : Oxford Dictionaries)

I was never cool.  Not even back in the supposed heyday of my 20s and 30s.  Nope, not even close.  To qualify as cool you need to be unimpressed by pretty much everything and that was never me.  Ebullient types like me – the eager ones – were decidedly un-cool.  And so it is today I find myself still inhabiting the domain of the un-cool, well outside the desired circle of hipness, resolutely marching to the beat of my own drum out on the periphery and this is never more evident than when I visit my morning coffee haunt.  That`s because every single person there, whether they are seated at a table or standing on the footpath waiting to grab their takeaway brew, is buried in their phone.  Except me.  I must seem like a curious oddity to the others, a quaint anachronism.  Oh wait!  Nobody is noticing my phonelessness because they are all immersed in their screens.  Love it!  Invisible in my un-cool, but this preponderance of the Phone People – the cool au courant – is to be seen absolutely everywhere and quite honestly I worry for them because the habit of seeking and focussing intensely on data of any kind actually constitutes an energy drain.

‘au courant’  literally : in the current / meaning : up-to-date

Distraction and diversion :  I guess smartphones are the perfect companion for the shy, the introverted and those who are just plain avoidant.  I wonder if the cool au courant – the perpetually connected – feel super-relieved to escape reality once they have ordered their coffee because they seem to need to dive straight back into their device, resuming habitation of that limbo state of the cyber non-world.  Do the Phone People like being in resistance to their immediate circumstance?  Gazing fixedly into their device they lean into another place – any place but right here – hiding in plain sight yet belonging in the right way because everyone else is doing it too.  I contemplate whether inside the sphere of the cool au courant they dismiss the concept of staying present to the now moment.  They seem not to need it.  The Phone People seem somehow to prefer the reductive and depreciative experience of oblivion that is life in cyberspace and the ceaseless cacophony of social media and the apps and the newsfeeds and the blah blah blah.  To me, out here on the margin it resembles a state of oblivion because the Phone People are neither one place nor the other.

Savouring the now moment with all its beauty, openness, wisdom, vulnerability and creativity is seemingly not for the cool au courant.  The Phone People are missing all the sensory wonder and magic and mystery of the present.  Maybe they feel this concept is only suited to the self-indulgent navel-gazers.  Staying present to one`s immediate experience – known as mindfulness – is synonymous with being in a state of acceptance, but do the Phone People see this as passive and wimpy, I wonder?  Intentionally paying attention, observing the minutiae and noticing the gifts of grace in the actual physical world is perhaps not stimulating enough for the Phone People.  Maybe the cool au courant are way more comfortable in sensory contraction, the stupor of the disconnect?

Buddhists, Taoists, yogis, the ancient and indigenous cultures and the great and wise teachers (too many to name here) universally extol the benefits of staying present to the now moment.  They all emphasize that this simple practice of mindfulness – conscious awareness – underpins the robustness of our spiritual and mental health.  For me, staying present and mindful in the now is the optimal precondition for moving into a space of peace, trust and flow.  It is detachment and it is liberation.  Relaxing fully into the present moment allows the human energy field to expand, opening up our connection to the subtle realms, in turn allowing access to greater creativity and deeper joy.  Mindfulness allows the individual to feel at one with the whole ; it relegates the ego and lulls overthinking.  But maybe this is all a bit boring for the Phone People.  Phone People appear to me to be immersed in their own little bubble and totally separate yet ironically the chief feature and selling point of the smartphone is connectedness.  I`m not sure the Phone People are connected at all.  Have we all been conned into a state of faux-connection?

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The collective nose-thumb by the Phone People is almost sexy.  Who gives a damn about neck problems, premature myopia and disruption to melatonin production caused by the blue light emitting from their screen, right?  The cool au courant clearly are not worried about blocked Chakras, digitally-induced anxiety and the obligation to always be connected to their phone.  They are more likely to feel stressed-out and uptight but I guess that is scarcely relevant inside the circle of the perpetually connected because the Phone People are probably unconscious of being unconscious.  Here in Australia we are seeing a spike in the rate of diagnosis of anxiety, Depression and an increase in youth suicide.  I find myself wondering if these statistics are the wretched curse of smartphone addiction.

Personally, out here on the fringe and well removed from the envied circle of cool, I have never really understood tech addiction.  The advantages of cell phones are self-evident but I just don`t like taking mine with me everywhere I go.  I don`t want the thing running my day and taking over my life.  I have found that focussing on that little screen for too long ungrounds me.  It makes me feel off balance and out of kilter.

I have heard it said that youngsters today are now conditioned to communicate in a whole different way and that this is positive evolutionary change.  Hmmm….I remain skeptical.  A survey of 500 university students in the U.S. found that frequent smartphone usage is directly related to anxiety, happiness, and academic performance and all of it negative.  Kent State University found that “…high frequency cell phone users tended to have lower Grade Point Average, higher anxiety, and lower satisfaction with life (happiness) relative to their peers who used the cell phone less often. The statistical model illustrating these relationships was highly significant.”  (as at January 2015)

Expansive and healing activities such as a short daily practice of meditation and time spent down at the local park or in nature (without their devices!) would be of immense benefit to the Phone People.  Simply bringing awareness to the breath swiftly reconnects us to the present moment and our immediate physical experience and anchors us back into our center.  Being in nature allows Earth`s nourishing and positive energy to ground us, restoring balance and strengthening our physical connection to Earth`s subtle electrical fields.  These are simple remedies and effective antidotes to digital overload, should the Phone People hold that intention.

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